I created something that helps you say what you can’t say out loud....
So that your partner, family, and friends finally understand how you really feel
Tell me if this is you right now...
People ask how you are.
And you smile and say, “I’m okay.”
But you’re not okay. Not even close.
You don't feel like a mum. You hate it, to be honest.
You miss your old life. You feel lonely, even though you are surrounded by people.
You look at your baby and feel… confused.
You think:
“What is wrong with me?”
“Why don't I feel how I'm supposed to feel?”
“Am I the only one feeling like this?”
And then the guilt comes in, because you should be happy.
So you stay quiet and pretend you're fine, even though you're anything but.
Not because you don’t want help, but because saying it out loud feels impossible.
Let me introduce you to 64 "Say it for me" messages for new mums
These are pre written messages you can send when you can’t find the words yourself.
You simply:
👉 Pick a message that feels like you
👉 Send it as a text or screenshot
👉 Let it speak for you
No overthinking or pressure to “say it right.”
Just honesty… made easier.
Messages like:
“I am not okay, even if I look like I am.”
“I don’t need advice right now. I just need you to be here.”
“I miss who I used to be.”
"I’m carrying pain I don’t even know how to explain."
"I need help, but I feel ashamed to ask for it."
I've been there too...
After my twins arrived, I felt nothing like I had expected. I didn’t beam with love and happiness like everyone had said I would. The boys were also colicky, so I was at breaking point. Totally exhausted, running on fumes every day.
The hardest part wasn’t the lack of sleep - it was the silence.
Because I was too scared to admit I was struggling. I didn’t want anyone to think I wasn’t coping.
So I pretended I was okay, while inside I was falling apart.
This silence eventually led to postnatal depression, which was the worst experience of my life I wouldn’t wish on anyone.
That’s why I created these messages - so that you never have to feel like I did. To help you speak up without having to say anything at all.
Why this works (and why it feels easier than speaking or texting?)
When you try to explain how you feel, your brain does something annoying.
It starts overthinking everything:
“Does this sound too much?”
“Will they judge me?”
“Am I wording this right?”
So even simple messages suddenly feel heavy.
But when the message is already written for you, something changes.
You don't have to create the words, you only have to choose them.
That reduces mental effort and emotional pressure at the same time.
It also creates psychological “distance.”
It doesn’t feel like you are exposing yourself, it feels like you’re sharing something that already exists outside of you.
Because of that, it becomes easier to send things you might normally hold back.
And the message still lands exactly the same way for the other person.
Same meaning and emotion, but without the internal struggle.
✔ You struggle to say how you feel
✔ You feel misunderstood or unseen
✔ You bottle things up to avoid judgement
✔ You want help but don’t know how to ask for it
✔ You just want someone to get it
✔ 64 ready-to-send messages
✔ Phone-friendly JPEGs (send as text or screenshot instantly)
✔ Designed for moments when words don’t come easily
✔ Instant access after purchase
I'm Ivana Poku, a mum of three boys (including twins), founder of Mumsjourney, author of Motherhood – The Unspoken, and international mentor, on a mission to make mums feel seen and happy.
After my twins were born in 2016, I struggled with severe postnatal depression. It was the worst experience of my life, but it also showed me how many mums struggle in silence.
When I understood this, I knew I had to make a difference. Ever since I pulled through depression, I have been supporting and making a difference for mums around the world. My works has been featured in various media outlets including BBC, Forbes, Telegraph, Voque, The Guardian, and many others.
Let these messages speak when you can’t.
You don’t need to explain everything - you just need a way to start.
It's only £19!